260404 What I learned in my studies this morning 6

Today's Meditation(s):

They are loud. They are messy. They don’t listen. They hate bedtime. They fight with their siblings. They break their stuff…they break your stuff.

They are kids. This is what they do.

Why are you surprised by it? Why do you fight it?

Not only is it what you signed up for, it doesn’t last. Each time, each example—however overwhelming or frustrating in the moment—is bringing you one step closer to the last time, bringing you closer to the empty nest, to the quiet house, to that day when, as we’ve said, you’ll be jealous of the person you are right now. ~ The Daily Dad 260403 (emphasis added)

I see these days slipping away. None of my kids are kids now. Some all-but-grown, some on the cusp. All fighting to find an identity.

I catch myself resenting their request for time or attention and work to extinguish that impulse. I remind myself to say YES. I get off my ass and go be with my child.

And sometimes I don't.

On occasion, I do not. On occasion, I choose myself or my wants. And they learn to moderate their demands. And that's healthy and good.

And later, my remembering self still often — but not always — regrets the missed opportunity.